One of the most undeniable Truths which can never be hidden is that the Lord God Almighty Himself is the Source and Origin of the Marriage Institution. Simply put, the Marriage Institution or the Order of Holy Matrimony was ordained by God Himself. The ramified implication here is that it takes the Marriage Covenant for Total Dominion to be actualized, therefore Marriage is in itself undoubtedly a Force to be reckoned with. It would interest us to know that the Trinity or Godhead is a Direct Result of the Marriage, as it were, that exists between God the Father, the Son and The Holy Spirit (1 Jn. 5:7). God always created everything in pairs, a key point which also underscores the Importance of the Marriage Institution, hence the issue of finding a suitable spouse is paramount because it takes two to tango (Amos 3:3). Clearly speaking, two or more is indeed a Force of Multiplication and Dominion (Ecc. 4:9).
The following are some of the Fundamental Steps involved in discovering a suitable spouse or helper in the Marriage Institution:
COMPATIBILITY
Whenever a man gets, as it were, oversized or undersized material, it becomes a rather frustrating and awkward situation (Ps. 42:7). One major way to identify a suitable spouse is that he/she fits right into your world with both of you complementing one another.
UNITY OF PURPOSE
Understand that if you are an Adam, then your Eve would always be found within your Garden. Simply put, God always plants your Eve near your Garden and one way to discern her is when she approaches the aforementioned Garden i.e., your God-given Assignment on Earth. She comes as a co-labourer, therefore when you think about Marriage, first think about your Purpose (Gen. 24:43, 48). If any woman you want to marry is unwilling to support your God-given Assignment, she might probably be a knife instead of a wife.
GOD'S DIRECTION
The choice of who you marry should never be determined by you alone although man has been given the Power of choice in this matter (Prov. 3:5-6). The God Factor must come into play by asking Him to direct you. This doesn't necessarily mean that God will speak with an Audible Voice but rather He would quicken your discernment. Always check your Inner Peace if you want to marry someone i.e., each time you think about the Marriage and you lose your Peace, that is a key indicator that all is not well.
SUBMISSION
You must also check if the person you want to get married to submits to Authority as well as the level of their Submission (1 Cor. 11:3-5). This is so important because a headless head would inevitably be beheaded.
THE FEAR OF GOD
You must consider whether the person is truly God fearing. This is extremely imperative because any person who fears nobody is indeed a person to be feared (Prov. 28:28). Take heed to these guidelines, for they would help you to make the right choice of a suitable spouse.